The word “heroes” is often tossed around with reckless abandon describing heroic acts — both large and small. In my 58 years on this planet, “my heroes” can be described by the three stories below. First, my mother, Barbara, a teacher and dear friend, Olen M. Wilford, and Dr. Francis K. Moll, Jr. These three, through their quiet encouragement, prayers, and skill have shaped the woman I am today. The words “thank you”. will never be enough.
The Broken Energizer Bunny
The Tony Awards were on TV, my mom’s favorite awards show. She sat in her
chair wrapped up in an afghan but still she shivered, sick… very sick. Fast
forward to Wednesday when she had to have a stress test which she failed and
was scheduled for an arteriogram the following day.
“Where’s Mom?” Dad had returned home without her. He was ashen and
calm, too calm.
“She’s in the hospital,” he said, “and it’s not good.
He showed me copies of the x-rays. Three of her coronary arteries were
nearly shredded. In four daysā time my energetic, funny, and loving mother had
been broken, and so too, were my dad and I.
“What’s next?” I asked.
“She’s scheduled for triple-bypass surgery tomorrow morning. She’s
going to call you in awhile.”
I wondered what she was going to say. Goodbye? Don’t worry, I’ll be fine? I
waited anxiously for her call. The conversation was light-hearted, each of us
trying through the phone to buoy each other up.
Then came Friday, June 13, 2003, a day etched in my memory. I hadn’t slept.
Numb and still in shock, my dad had asked my best friend at the time to stay
with me while we waited for news. It wasn’t until 18 hours later that Mom
regained consciousness, and an additional 48 hours passed until I saw her face
to face. I remember meeting the Coronary Care Unit Manager outside her room.
“She’s very sick,” I said. “I guess she’s going to be here a
long time.”
“No, not very long,” she replied. “Her surgeon will probably
let her come home in a day or two.”
Inside her room, our eyes locked. She looked frail, frightened, and so
tired. The nurse came in and got her up for a walk. Little by little during
that visit, I began to see glimmers of my “energizer bunny” coming
back to me.
She was discharged as the CCU manager had said, and Mom’s long recovery
began at home. Nearly 12 years have passed and she recovered well.
She and my dad have traveled the world, their most recent cruise to the
Baltic in 2012.
I will never look on Friday the 13th as something to fear but as a lucky day
because I have my “energizer bunny” back in one piece, healthier than
she’s ever been.
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“The Tender Troubadour”
The O.H. (Orthopedically Handicapped) Unit of Greg Rogers Elementary is
divided into two groups of twelve children (grades 1-4 and grades 5-8) with a
variety of disabilities. Mr. Olen Wilford, the Unit’s “Tender
Troubadour,” teaches the older children.
My name is Beth. I’m six years old. We always go to Mr.
Wilford’s room for music, and it’s now way past lunch. Our teacher, Mrs.
Shenners, keeps talking, but I’ve stopped listening. I’m looking around
the room, out the windows, and finally my excitement bubbles to the surface. I
can’t sit still another minute. I’m happy in my room, but happiest venturing
into the place where I hear the music. I raise my hand, interrupting Mrs.
Shenners. “Is it time for music yet?” I ask. “I can hear
the music coming from the other room already.”
She looks at me sternly and says, “Yes, Beth, it is.
Everyone line up at the door quietly.”
Connected by two sliding doors with a short hallway in between, we move
single file — in wheelchairs, on crutches, and those who can walk unaided,
from our room into a magical, musical world — a musical “Mr. Magorium’s
Wonder Emporium”. As each of us comes into the room, a very
suntanned Mr. Wilford welcomes us with open arms. Thin but muscular, his
hugs melt every little girl’s heart including mine. His hair shines like the
color of a new copper penny with golden highlights. His blue eyes dance.
His clothes are simple, sport shirt and slacks with low boots.
“Well I declare! Look at all your smiling faces,” he says , as he
sits down on a chair that swivels, and picks up his guitar. “Ready
to sing?”
“YEAH!”
“What shall we sing first?”
“Puff The Magic Dragon,” we shout in unison.
And so it begins, like it does every afternoon. Mr. Wilford’s favorite songs
are ’60s folk songs, with some gospel mixed in, too. He loves teaching us
the songs, and we love singing at the top of our lungs and clapping along.
A perfect end to the day.
I saw my “tender troubadour” and teacher the final time in 1977, when
I’d returned as a summer school volunteer in the OH Unit. While I was
waiting for a ride home, and watching the children being loaded on
specially equipped buses, a man resembling Mr. Wilford caught my eye. As
he walked closer I let him pass me. “Mr. Wilford?”
He spun on his heel and said, “Well I declare! Hello Beth
Casey.”
Seeing his face and hearing his unmistakable drawl transported me back to a
time of innocence and indescribable joy. He ran to me and kneeled beside
me. We hugged for a long time. I was six years old all over again.
Sadly, I learned that Mr. Wilford died in June 2012 at age 83. If
heaven is anything like the mythical land of Honah Lee that we sang about so
often, I know that Mr. Wilford is in a happy place.
Olen M. Wilford
3/10/29–6/20/12
“Puff the magic dragon lived by the sea and frolicked in the autumn mist in a land called Honah Lee.”
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Dr. Francis K. Moll, Jr — Doctor, Healer, and Forever
Friend
As I’ve laid in many hospitals beds this past year, I kept thinking about
and wondering, “What would Dr. Moll do?” Dr. Francis K. Moll, Jr. (a
Naval Commander and Orthopedic Surgeon) performed a spinal fusion surgery on me
in 1969. I was 8.
In July 2014, I decided I was going to try to locate him, not knowing if he
was alive or where on this enormous planet he lived. So, I went to Google,
typed in his name, and got a hit, but this hit was for another orthopedic
surgeon residing/practicing in Florida, approximately my age. What to do? What
else? There was an email listed for his practice, so I emailed him, identifying
myself, and asking if “my Dr. Moll” was related to him. Days later I
received an email back with the wonderful news that Dr. Francis K Moll, III,
was his eldest son, and let me know that “my Dr. Moll” was alive and
well, married 58 years to his wife, Sophie, and that they resided in a town
outside of Atlanta, GA. Imagine my joy at this news! I’d found him!! Frank (the
son) passed along my email and within a couple of weeks a letter from “my
Dr. Moll” arrived in the mail, and we’ve been corresponding by mail ever
since. Funny, strange, odd, but after we reconnected, I began to heal slowly
and steadily. Is he my guardian angel? You bet he is!
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